From time to time, candidates reach out to us in unique ways.

There are the creative sorts that leverage every marketing tool available to gain attention. There are others who are minimalists, and feel their experience should garner attention, not the flash. Still, others, have a different approach.

I received a message earlier today from a very pleasant sounding woman. She stated she submitted her husband’s resume, and was following up to make sure we received it. She inquired about our interview process. Then, her message took a different turn. She said she wanted to be clear that her husband would not take a pay cut or any job that required him to work as many hours as he was with his current employer. Despite the fact that her husband was a Chef, she added that a job in training or human resources may be a good fit.

Initially, as I listened to the message, I appreciated the follow up. But, then, I had one of those – shake your head, are you kidding me – moments.

What makes any sane person believe they could magically take on a different role, work less hours, and make more money? It’s insulting to all the people that have worked hard – in a given field or job role – towards their goals.

Setting aside the cluelessness of this particular person, why wasn’t her husband submitting his own resume, and, why wasn’t he following up himself?

I can appreciate the fact that we’re all busy. Time is at a premium and sometimes we have to delegate responsibility – even to love-ones – when seeking out new options, but…c’mon!

Enlisting the support of your family and friends to help conduct research can be helpful. But, be sure to provide some direction. It’s great to have the support, but it’s important that you get the help you need – not just the help they want to provide. By delegating the info-gathering responsibilities, you can pull all details together to formulate questions and make inferences.

Some opportunities for information gathering:

Company research. Company history, culture, mission, goals and leadership styles are all ideal bits of information to ask a love-one to help you uncover. This is foundational knowledge, and will allow you to speak intelligibly with regard to the company during the interview.

Interviewer research. Once an interview has been scheduled, ask your support person to seek out the individual online. By simply placing the interviewer’s name in quotations within the search box of any web browser, a lot of detail can be uncovered. This research may identify social media profiles, published interviews, event and/or charitable involvement. Again, this is good information when trying to determine how to respond to the interviewer. If you know where he/she worked previously, or of an event for which he/she participated in, you can pounce on any opportunity to connect with the interviewer during the interview.

Interview preparation. A loved-one can be a good sounding board for you as you prepare for interviews. He/she can role play, ask questions, and provide feedback with regard to how you articulate your thoughts.

There’s nothing wrong with asking for help. We could all use some [help], some time. Just remember, your spouse isn’t looking for a job – you are.


David Rose is Vice President of Recruiting with YELLOW DOG Recruiting. Follow David on Twitter@YELLOWDOG_01.